“My whole life is spoiled because I had married you. How I wish I had got married to sangeetha.” – This is the husband talking.
“But Sangeetha is already married and with two kids. The past is past and we have to focus on us.” – The wife.
“No, I can’t be without talking to her atleast once a day. You are of no use to me.”
“Then why did you get married to me?”
“What will I do if you get married to someone else.??” – The husband, in an obvious, matter of fact tone.
The girl was inconsolable. This is a sample conversation I had with a college girl from Sivagangai. 70% of the girls from that college were married and all 70% were in a personal hell of varying degrees. Not one person who didn’t have tears in her eyes as she recounted experiences out of her marriage, mother in law, husband and parental pressure.
It so happened that I trained in a finance minister initiative. Minister P. Chidambaram had wanted his constituency Sivagangai’s students to be trained and my company had bagged the contract. I had gone there personally to set pace and spearhead the training. And the experiences that I had were real eye-openers.