My enemy at thirteen!

Light your hair on fire.
Swallow a caterpillar.
Bite down your ipad.
Put your finger on a live-wire.

Bad ideas, isn’t it?! But not so to teens. As you imagined the above tasks, if you were a adult and your brain were to be connected to a scanner, your distress and danger area will glow screaming automatically at the mental imagery. You will say these are bad ideas!

Supposing you were a teen-ager, you will still say these are bad ideas. But there is a difference. You will answer a moment later and it will not be a automatic response. No distress! Instead the cognitive parts of your brain will glow as if you were deliberating as to what dress to wear next day for college. 🙂 You are actually thinking about them. There is no aversion that gets triggered automatically. Continue Reading


This movie was just plain DISASTER. Coming from me, this is really something since I usually tend to find any mythical epic, historical war film utterly fascinating. I Just love them, the settings, the dresses, the stories, the values, the grandiosity everything transports me to another time and another world from which I am ever reluctant to return. However bad the movie you will find me enjoying it! Immortals is the only exception to this long held love of mine.

Half the scenes were so dark that you wondered if you were watching a new style – the black movies, you imagine what you want to see!! The next half was so grizzly violent that you felt like throwing up, brutally sticky images of the young oracles butchered and locked into the minotaur’s metal statue and roasted alive, plucking out eyes with bare fingers, making a man open his legs wide and hammering him, My God! not to add the special effects of flying blood and flesh in the name of 3D. Well, technically sometimes it was superlative 3D effects, but when you repeatedly get to see the same bloodthirst again and again it becomes boring and sadistical. I especially liked the fancy hairdos of the gods and their elegant costumes. And I can go as far as to say the epirus bow looked very interesting. Continue Reading

A quick-fix for tears!

Suppose you were fired today from your job or a dear one broke up with you. You are pained to the core. What happens? Tears spring to your eyes isn’t it? Now let’s say your friend treated you to a surprise gift. You felt so special and happy. You smile naturally, right? Again, suppose you are in love with someone. What do you do in a moment of tenderness? Most often, you spontaneously hug and kiss that person? Now from all this it is obvious that certain feelings are programmed in our subconscious to cause certain fixed behaviours. Cry during pain, smile during happiness, violence during rage and so on…

Just like the age-old riddle, what came first – chicken or egg; let me ask you a question. Does happiness make you smile or the smile makes you happy? Does pain make you cry or crying make you pained? You will be quick to say, “Ofcourse only because I am happy, I can smile. Why would I smile other wise? And, am I mad to be crying without pain?” But you know what? An area of research known as proprioceptive psychology totally disagrees with you. It says the process works well in reverse too. Get people to behave in certain ways and you can cause them to feel certain emotions and certain thoughts. Continue Reading

‘Beastly’ Win-Win!!

Is Man the only senseless creature on the planet?
Read about an interesting research that a Canadian national crew undertook – to study the habits of the wild wolves along with their prey, the reindeer. The research lasted for a year and the crew had a couple of helicopters to film their habits 24/7 along their route of migration. Now, we are normally led to believe that the deer and the wolf are enemies of each other, you know, the picture of the wolf as the big bad villain and the deer swooning away in mortal fright??

Surprise, surprise!! The reality was anything but this. These two animals, polar opposites that they are, were found to be great friends of each other. They travelled together, played together and mixed freely with each other. You could almost say that the only thing lacking was romance. When the wolf in their normal course felt hungry, they gave a signal to the deer by freezing all over. Continue Reading

Has anyone hurt you real bad?

I am sick of hearing the words ‘Justice’ and ‘Being good’ and ‘Being noble’ and ‘moving on’’ Come on, open your eyes and you will see that we are certainly not living in a just world! Well, you can always fight for justice in our appointed court of law for certain crimes, when someone has stolen your wallet or beaten you to a pulp or for corruption and a few other issues. These are accepted as crime because they are in some manner objectively measurable like finance or bodily harm or discrimination.

But what about the many crimes that remain socially unlegislated, undocumented, and unrecognized? People constantly hurt each other in ways that various societies cannot yet afford to acknowledge. In many societies personal abuse of a wife or a husband or a lover still goes unpunished. Even in supposedly advanced cultures, the social resources do not yet exist to document and punish parents who verbally abuse their children. Yet children are damaged for life after this type of abuse. What about suicide which causes unbearable sorrow to those left behind?

There are many kinds of pain, misery, and grief which must remain deeply private. So, due to either society’s inability to recognize the crime or the inherently private nature of the damage, there are many ways for one person to be hurt by another person which may never be publicly redressed. Especially those that happen within a marriage or a core partnership. Continue Reading

Lost hope? Good!!

A friend introduced me to stock market and intraday trading. After dabbling with it for sometime I took a backseat and became a mere audience. According to me the stocks did not follow any rule in their appreciation and depreciation and I could see that the advice of another friend was on dart, “It is sheer gamble.”

Unfortunately a few others who were there in the same sea along with me didn’t think so. Particularly, there was another girl who invested about twenty five thousand of her hard earned money. In one shot she lost about fifteen thousand. A small series of tiny profits followed and then there came a day when she lost all her margin and then some in one single day. Now, instead of getting alarmed, she only thought the problem was her trading methodologies and she made a decision to trade wisely. She replenished her margin. But then once again inevitable losses! Now she thought lower margins were the problem and that if she invested more money then she will have holding power for a couple of days and she need not book losses. Surprise, Surprise!! She lost all her money in a week’s time. Now she thinks the stringy and stingy measures of the brokers with whom she traded was the problem. She began fresh with another institution. All money is lost once again. Continue Reading

Say “Oops!” Stay happy!

I happened to meet a friend of mine quiet by accident after a very long time. She had joined a spiritual movement when she was very young. Back then she was totally convinced she will be a tool to “save the world”. Well, according to the original plan they were supposed to have saved it some two years ago. You and I both know, for heaven’s sake, they haven’t even begun saving themselves! And she says to me, “You know it was such a great idea. What a great vision to have. Too bad it didn’t work out. But I still want to embrace the true essence of the cause.”

That was a ‘come-alive’ moment to me. This is exactly how people make a fatal mistake, a grievous error that could cost them their life, be it in career or romance or business or personal life. Do you see the thread?

Let me draw a parallel. The American company Enron’s meteoric rise to popularity and its even faster bankruptcy was quiet popular a few years ago. the sailiant feature of its great fall was that its executives never admitted to having made a large mistake. When it reached unmanageable proportions and required an actual policy change they only said, “too bad that didn’t work out – it was such a good idea – how are we going to hide it in our balance sheet” while they should have actually said “Oh how stupid we have been”, they should have said, “it now seems obvious in retrospect that it has been a terrible mistake from the beginning.” But No! Its CEO even testified that Enron had been a great company. Continue Reading